Goals and Grit

Hello All, I wanted to shake things up a little bit and talk about a book I have been working my way through and goals. So its officially January, and a lot of us are looking at the great new year like a blank canvas, waiting to be painted. I have to be honest, I’ve always been a fan of New Years, not the holiday or New Years Eve, although everyone loves a good party night. But every year I enjoy the act of self-reflection and planning that goes into the new year, and the chance to grow and improve.

But the one thing I hate about this process is during the self-reflection, admitting where you came up short. Where did you stumble or fail, what went wrong? Now if I’m being honest I’m a DevOps guy and as a result am big on admitting failure. But if we look at this from a DevOps perspective, teams grow when they fail fast, and on some level this yearly retrospective ritual flies in the face of that.

Lately I’ve been reading a great book call Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth. And it really is an amazing book that will change the way you look as success on the whole. Really it promotes this concept that success is not built on talent, but rather on the determination and passion of the person.

In the beginning of the book she calls out West Point. West Point has one of the most rigorous recruiting processes in history, and they only take the best and brightest into their program. But despite that, they were seeing a very high drop out rate, and couldn’t figure out why. The short version is because the people who are most talented are rarely tested, and if you’ve never had to overcome obstacles before, then you are likely to back down when faced with your first wall.

The book also gives an interesting take on goal planning that I had never done before, and its one that to me makes a lot of sense, and I’m giving it a try this year. So I will have to update the blog here with the results. But the one method she talks about was discussed by Warren Buffet, arguably one of the most successful business men of our time. In the book, he describes a planning process he does, which is to write down 25 goals, 25 things you’d like to accomplish this year. This sounds like a lot, but if you start writing goals, you’ll find its not hard. I hit 30 without breaking a sweat. And then pick from that list the top 5, and put those in the “MUST DO” category.

And take the rest…and put them in the “NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES” category. The idea is this, your time is your most valuable resource, and multi-tasking is an illusion. So you should focus your attention on these 5, and the other 20 are a distraction. The focus being that being successful isn’t about saying “Yes”, its about saying “No”.

For me this resonates, as if I pour all my attention and time into 5 specific goals, I am way more likely to accomplish them with greater impact. And this also works well with another planning approach that I’ve leveraged before, which is described by Steven Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

In his book, he describes the idea that if you think of your day as a bucket, and I tell you to fit big rocks, little rocks, and sand into the bucket. What is the most logical way to fill it? Big Rocks, then little, then Sand, and if we are being honest we should approach our goals the same way. But most times we don’t, we avoid the big tasks, and small tasks, and fill our day with emails first.

So he recommends breaking things into the following matrix (called the Eisenhower Decision Matrix):

Important / Urgent Important / Not Urgent
Not important / Urgent Not Important / Not Urgent

In this matrix, the idea is that “Important” means that it lines up with your goals, which I would argue are the five goals provided above. From there we can look at what’s urgent and aligns to our goals as where our time should be spent.

  • Q1 of the above box, is for things that are urgent and related to your goals, like deadlines, crisis, opportunities that are time sensitive.
  • Q2 of the above are items that don’t have a pressing deadline but focus on your goal, this should be next on your priority list.
  • Q3 are items that require immediate attention but don’t move us forward. Which should try to minimize these tasks as much as possible. Things like phone calls, emails, etc.
  • Q4 are items which aren’t urgent or important and are basically time wasters, eliminate at all costs.

So leveraging the above matrix, makes it very easy to keep our focus where it should be on our 5 goals, and avoiding the distractions that undermine our success.

Welcome to Mack Bytes

Hello all, consider this the inaugural post of the new Mack Bytes blog.  Welcome!  I’ve chosen to sort of rebrand this blog, and sort of relaunch it for a couple of reasons.  The first and foremost of which is that the other blog has sort of faded.

To be honest I started that blob it feels like a life-time ago, and it was started with the intention of creating a blog to provide articles that were intended to be “how-to” guides, and other targeted posts strictly only on software development.  And there’s nothing wrong with that, but if I’m being honest, I had trouble continually updating it, and it felt like every post started with “Let me start by apologizing for the lack of updates”.  And that’s not a good place to be.  I also feel like my life has changed actually quite a bit recently, and I sort of wanted to refocus my efforts.  So over the past year I’ve been doing a lot of thinking, and planning.  And this has all been geared around life goals and direction.  And I really wanted to relaunch this blog with the intention of being more than it was before.  Don’t get me wrong I’m a big nerd at heart, so there will always be the technical posts, but this newly branded blog is more about changing to being a general blog to help people as I figure this stuff out for myself.

In essence, I’m inviting you all on my journey.  So I’ve found myself at the tender age of 35, and realized that the journey that got me to where I am is very different from the plan when I graduated college, and I’m looking forward to where I can go next.  But really for me to do that, a lot of factors have to be considered.  And a lot will likely happen along the way.  I will be using this blog as a platform to help people and share insights.  And I will also be leveraging other social media platforms as a way of driving those messages.  So if you like what you see here, please pass it along to someone else, if you don’t please talk to me.  I’d love to start a dialog exchange if you disagree with my thoughts, actions, or beliefs.  Dialog is the best way to really grow, and challenging dialog has a way of making you re-examine your beliefs and actions.

So here we go, the first post of the new blog, looking forward to more.